Common Mistakes Men Make After A Divorce
Divorces can be tricky, especially for dads. Some divorces are more successful than others. If you are a father or man trying to navigate through divorce and finding it hard, you are not alone. However, you can make it easier on yourself and your children by avoiding some of the common mistakes men make after a divorce.
Everyone wants the tedious process of divorce to get over as soon as possible so that they can get back to their normal life. However, some aspects of the divorce can come back to haunt you for several months, even after the divorce. To carefully navigate this chapter of your life, consider speaking to a divorce lawyer Boston today.
Common mistakes men make after a divorce
- Refusing to co-parent or not co-parenting well.
Some men choose to fight every single divorce battle in and out of court. They do this to drag out the process and make it hard for the other spouse in an attempt to take revenge for the divorce. However, this does not only hurt your spouse but you and the other people in the family as well–most notably your children. Children are the most affected when you continue to fight with your ex. It is better to stay on good terms with them and co-parent.
- Dating too soon.
If you have already divorced your wife, there is no problem with dating another person. However, dating too soon can be detrimental. Many men begin their next relationship or even get into another marriage within the first year of their divorce. Most men jump into relationships during this vulnerable time because they feel lonely and are at the peak of their emotions. Your kids also find it difficult to accept a new person after witnessing their parents’ divorce.
- Ignoring court orders.
Whatever you do after the divorce, do not ignore court orders. Failure to follow court orders can create more problems and take you back to court. If you disagree, hire an attorney and file a motion to appeal or modify.
It is not ideal in the eyes of the court to fall behind on your alimony or child support payments because both are domestic obligations. If your financial circumstances are not allowing you to pay, that is, if you are broke, file a motion to modify the current order.
- Not spending enough time with the children.
Moving out of the home, getting into a new relationship, falling into depression, traveling too much, etc., are all common reasons for men not spending enough time with their children after a divorce. You might not even realize you are not spending adequate father-daughter or father-son time. Do not be an absentee father.